1/11/09 (Personal Blog)

It's interesting how we often allow our negative emotions get the best of us. We often allow the negative energy feed us, therefore causing a sometimes unnecessary result. But what drives us to an initial reaction, though or feeling? What really causes us to be angry, sad, or yell? What makes us want to curse, and what makes us want to cry? While some may state the obvious and say "it varies from person to person", its all just the same old thing: we allow the negative emotions and thoughts over power those that are more positive.

When something doesn't necessarily go our way, we often get upset and the first thing that happens is that our mood changes. Some people are better with this mood change than others. While some people swallow everything they have and try to look away, some of us tend to get angry, vengeful or sometimes even violent. Not that it's wrong to have emotions or feel a certain way about particular issues (for everyone has their right to feel what they want and are entitled to their personal opinions) but we have to learn how to control our initial reactions.

I've recently added that to my very few new years resolutions (I don't have that many because I'm almost perfect =] ). I realize that becoming angry, confrontational and vengeful, usually gets me nowhere, and in the end, things always turn out okay regardless of how I responded to it in the first place. My new years resolution is to keep my cool when I'm unhappy. Not that I'll appear nonchalant, but maybe I'll just think before I act, and look more so towards a solution that hovering over the problem to make it worse before it gets better. I've found it to be a waste of time to put so much energy, negative energy at that, into something that i'll probably laugh about ten minutes later.

Adding "fuel to the fire" is a mistake I've done in the past on multiple occasions, and have made situation become more than what they needed to be. If I have ever done this to you, I apologize. Accept, or don't. It's no longer my burden to deal with.