Mistakes

I once read from an amazing person, that no matter what you do for someone, they will always remember what you didn't break your back to do for them. At some point, I could never fully understand what this meant, but I've recently come across an experience that has opened my eyes to this truth.

As humans, we constantly make mistakes. Regardless of how hard we try to be perfect, faults are always made. Some are minor, while others are concerned with a more major scale. But with this knowledge, why is it that we automatically look to create "double negatives" from mistakes. When I say double negative, I refer to acting negatively based off a mistake that someone else performed to either A: Make yourself feel superior by attempting to make another feel guilty, B: You're a complete and total bitch, C: You know not how to react, so you go off instinct, or D: You simply do not know how to discuss problems like an "adult".

We often make mistakes heavier by magnifying them, and by not being forgiving of them. We will remember a blunder before we remember everything else that was done for us. We will remember a mistake before remembering any hugs given, any laughs shared, any cheering up, or any favors. We will immediately give up trust due to a mistake, without seeking an explanation. Some remain one sided, and in the case of mistake, they will make a decision based off of that one incident and opposed to weighing out the negatives and positives of the past and discussing them. More strong minded people realize that mistakes are made, and instead of being rude and seemingly careless, will look for a positive discussion. Regardless of if it works out or not, whether you agree to disagree or you kiss and make up, it’s always better to say you tried for the sake of the relationship than say you gave up all trust because you’re tired. It’s always better to at least pretend to value something, anything.

When it comes to fixing mistakes or trying to justify them, we are often passive; we don't confront them personally. I'm sick of people writing bulletins, and notes instead of something a bit more personal. We say that the mistake is a terrible burden; we act as if it’s the end of the world, regardless of if the situation can be resolved or not. But the last thing we want to do is talk it out. What holds us back? Pride? Immaturity? Fear? Retardation? Psychological issues? I guess I will never fully understand because although I do take the time out to write notes, bulletins and blogs, what I say is always up for discussion and I make that known.

Mistakes are made by everyone. Point blank. Some people have yet to accept that there are more important things in the world going on. We always think we have it so terrible. But there is always someone suffering way worse. There is always someone starving. There is always someone that doesn't have a home. There is always someone without parents and a loving family. And we think our resolvable issues are something to stress about? Honestly, do you think people dying are concerned about mistakes? No. They're trying to survive. Mistakes are insignificant due to their frequency, but we tend to gamble so much over them. Sad but true.

There is nothing else to do but pack up and move on, for as I said, there are way more important things. Not money, cars, clothes, or even people for that matter. But just more important things than mistakes. You make mistakes, and learn from them. It’s that simple. Why stay stuck or get upset when there are other things to focus on?